I deliberately try not to spend too much time on the roads in Kuwait. For many reasons, most of which were being addressed in the #irespectlife campaign. I also like to feel like I’m not wasting time that could further be enhancing my life, so I use the time to listen to podcasts. It is important to find time to completely detach and rest, but personally I find driving in Kuwait quite stressful at times.
A good friend of mine, Regan, put me onto a podcast by a UK based gentleman called Ben Comber. Ben interviews many of the world’s leading experts on all aspects of health and well-being. On episode 130, Ben was speaking with the famous Paul Chek on a show titled Inner Self (In past articles I have referred to Paul’s ideas and teachings.)
The podcast focused on several aspects of health and wellbeing and in particular a book Paul wrote titled How to Eat, Move and Be Healthy. To date, this is one of the best books I’ve personally read during my time in the fitness industry. This book manages to address many of the complicated problems we encounter today in a very straight forward and simple to understand manner. If you don’t own it, get it and share it with your family and friends.
During this podcast, Paul and Ben spoke on the lack of people who had dreams, or the number who had dreams which they couldn’t seem to reach, or had nightmares INSTEAD of dreams. It was a real eye opener listening to Paul speaking so openly about ideas that people seldom share in public. He had the courage, in my opinion, to discuss ideas that we all have, yet are often terrified to face.
Having spent over 12 years working in the industry of fitness, I have been able to reflect on many of the clients and personal trainers I have trained or worked with and realized how powerful these individual fears are or how so many of us (myself included) didn’t or don’t know how to achieve our dreams. This influences everything, from weight loss to weight gain, to pains and aches that can’t be explained. Fears and lack of realizing your dreams can alter the balance of your mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
In an article I recently read (positivelypresent.com) it said “stop what you’re doing and ask yourself this: if you could have a dream come true, what would that dream be?” We all have dreams – some big, some small – but we often push them to the back of our minds, thinking someday…or maybe completely denying the notion that they could become realities. If we want to live our most positive, most present lives, we cannot deny our dreams. We cannot look at them like caged birds, something pretty to look at, something that shouldn’t be set free.
This resonated with me as only in the past 14 days I’ve been asking many friends, clients and even random people if they have a dream and if so how they were planning on reaching it. I was amazed to see how many of them either didn’t have a dream, but had a nightmare, or had a dream yet didn’t seem to have the likelihood of reaching it because of the current situation they were in.
So below are four points I read in the article that I wanted to share with you:
Fear is stopping you. First accept your fear, then move past it. Setting a dream free to make it a reality is scary; there’s no doubt about it. Don’t deny your fear. Instead, accept it, appreciate it (after all, it will make you stronger), and move past it. Do not let it hold you back or hinder you from unlocking that cage’s door.
Believe that you deserve to live the life you choose, the dream you want. Everyone deserves to realize their dream. Perhaps even more so, we deserve to have a dream that becomes a reality. Believe in your deservingness of your dreams and don’t let anyone convince you that your dream is anything less than perfect. This can be hard as often our friends want us to not be afraid and prefer us to be in a safe and constant environment.
Set your dream free and then close the door. Tempting as it might be to keep the door open, allowing for the possibility that you can someday return your dream safely to the cage, don’t leave the door ajar. Don’t cloud your mind with the idea of just giving it a try to see if it might work. Give it your all. Give it everything. Start moving forward and on your way through the door close it behind you. You’re not going back that way.
Make sure that you don’t look back on what might have been. Dive headfirst into making your dream, whatever it is, a reality. Don’t wonder about what would have happened if you hadn’t set it free, if you hadn’t given it everything you had. Looking back will only prevent you from living your dream in the present.
Having realized many of my dreams, I can say from personal experience that it is indeed scary. It’s daunting and at times it feels like it may be all too much to achieve. Whatever you do, don’t give in, don’t ever give in. Some people will tell you it can’t be done. Be careful who you chose to listen too. Because often these people have yet to face their own fears. Move forward. Make it happen.